It was the scrum half’s try saving tackle on the towering
All Black wing Jonah Lomu in the World Cup rugby final in 1995 which arguably
won the tournament for South Africa.
He went on to win the Tri Nations in 1998 and captained the
Boks at the 1999 World Cup, when they were beaten in extra time in the
semi-finals by eventual winners Australia.
The 42 year old is now dying of motor neurone disease (MND)
which he contracted in 2011. Progressive muscular weakness has now left him in
a wheelchair and barely able to speak.
This last week the BBC and Daily
Mail have both run articles about which give testimony to his strong
Christian faith.
Van der Westhuizen scored
38 tries in 89 Tests for the Springboks after making his international
debut against Argentina in Buenos Aires in 1993.
He played his last match in the Green and Gold against New
Zealand in Melbourne in November in 2003, retiring as South Africa’s
most-capped player.
Since being diagnosed with MND, he has set up the J9 Foundation, which is a charity that
raises awareness about the disease.
Despite his personal plight, van der Westhuizen said he’s
made peace with his situation.
‘I realise every day could be my last’, he told BBC Sport.
‘I led my life at a hundred miles an hour. I’ve learnt that
there are too many things that we take for granted in life and it’s only when
you lose them that you realise what it is all about.’
‘It’s been a rollercoaster from day one and I know I’m on a
deathbed from now on. I’ve had my highs and I have had my lows, but no more.
I’m a firm believer that there’s a bigger purpose in my life and I am very
positive, very happy,’ he said.
‘I know that God is alive in my life and with experience you
do learn. I can now talk openly about the mistakes I made because I know my
faith won’t give up and it won’t diminish. It’s only when you go through what I
am going through that you understand that life is generous.’
For Van der Westhuizen, life is now chiefly about spending
time with his family. He has two children, Jordan, seven, and a five-year-old
daughter, Kylie.
This testimony makes a welcome change for the BBC which
usually highlights motor neurone disease in the context of the debate around
legalising assisted suicide debate. But van der Westhuizen’s testimony opens a
window into what is the more usual reality for most sufferers.
There are in fact 5,000 people in the UK with MND, of whom around 1,000
will die from the disease each year, three each day.
The vast majority do not want help to end their lives but
assistance to live as comfortably as possible in the days they have left.
I have already drawn attention on this blog to Alistair
Banks’ inspiring story of courage. Dubbed ‘the incurable optimist’ (right) he
finally passed away on 9 January this year but a tribute site, and his blog are still available along
with a statement from the Motor Neurone Disease Association for which he did so much.
His family speak of being ‘so very proud of the way that
despite the disease he inspired so many people and left such an incredible
legacy for his children and others’.
His optimism was not unusual, he maintained.
'Everyone I know with
MND is trying to do positive things, otherwise they would sink into despair.
It’s a coping mechanism. Doing things means that you can pull in friends and
family to share something both fun and rewarding.'
Earlier this year the inspirational film ‘I am Breathing’ was promoted as
part of motor neurone disease awareness.
It follows the last few months of Neil Platt’s life, seeing
him go from being a healthy 30 something to becoming completely paralyzed from
the neck down from MND. As his body gets weaker, his perspective on life
changes. His humour remains, but a new wisdom emerges:
‘It's amazing how adaptable we are when we have to
be. It's what separates us and defines us as human beings.’
Another Briton with MND, Rev Michael Wenham, has
told the
Independent about his determination to keep on living life. Diagnosed
in 2002 with a rare, slower form of Motor Neurone Disease, Michael has always
intended on not giving up.
In his book, 'My Donkey Body' he clearly and compassionately describes the
process of being diagnosed with the terminal disease, and the struggle of
living with the condition. He also deals eloquently with these issues on his blog.A few years ago on a visit to South Africa I was able to link him with another South African Christian with MND, Jozanne Moss, with whom he later co-authored ‘I choose everything’. The book is available on Amazon, has its own face book page and is recommended by the Motor Neurone Disease Association.
Jozanne died
in February 2012 and there is a beautiful
tribute to her on Michael’s blog, which ends with a quotation he believes
would fit Jozanne from Charles Dickens:
‘Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never
tires, and a touch that never hurts.’
We all will one day die, unless Christ’s return comes first,
but for most the dying process will be far easier than for those with MND.
This is precisely why these stories
of triumph over adversity from those facing death with this frightening disease should get more column inches and air time. They give strength to others and are a refreshing balance to the negative images we often get of the dying process
from the media.
Stories of hope in the face of suffering can bring reality, courage and hope to a society that so desperately
needs them. Let’s please have more of them.
My mother in law died from pneumonia which was brought on by MND, I have no idea what her standing before the Lord Jesus Christ was but I do know she lived those last few months with dignity and self respect (even in the face of being in positions where dignity was not present for her).
ReplyDeleteShe too like thousands of others with MND never once wanted to end her life, she just enjoyed life and would often have people laughing and feeling good about her and themselves.
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